Anger and Anger Management

Ya you read it right… anger… 

Don’t know but really want to discuss it…anger… we all get angry many times…lets say in day one time we do lose control and get angry…some people shows and some don’t, keep it to one self. 

Some people get angry on big events only and ignore till they can…and some like me can loose control easily on very small things also.

 Basically what I tried to understand anger is temporary madness.

You become angry because something or someone has done something against your expectations. An expectation is a shelter – it gives you a security feeling. So when someone breaks your expectations he is breaking your shelter, making you insecure, fearful.

You become angry because you are psychologically a weak person.

If your ego is hurt you may become angry. Understand that ego itself is a disease. Dissolve your ego as far as possible. If you have inferiority complex, or have a very deficient ego you will loose your temper very easily.

I am really a short temper person but got my ways of smoothing things up…but not talking to others n keeping to myself till I start feeling ok again.

I am the first kind which I mentioned… expectations one … Having sky rocking expectations n at the same time no expectations …that’s me!!!

Today after feeling angry I started searching for techniques of anger management… as heard people say they help… found them good too but not practical as we all live in high pace world with loads of expectations, ego n pressure so how can anybody stop it… then realize a simple thing that you can only get hold of yourself when it comes to being angry … no techniques will work unless it is your own way of handling things. 

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Art attack

well today i was feeling very lazy… so dint feel like writing anything…can’t help it … like to be lazy as much as i can …   so thought of drawing instead …

so took a black sheet n two white n black  pencils which are used on glass , leather, etc … n started drawing … it took me 2 hrs to draw it… now lets see how you people will rate it????

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Meera painting

This painting is done by my mom…..

so thought of putting this up…..

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Tring Tring Tring

Our heart goes out to telemarketers who may now find themselves on the streets. On Monday, the science fiction – sounding TRAI – which opens up more benignly as the telecom regulatory of India – sent out a notice that it would fine cell phone operators if they failed to act against those telemarketers who bug all consumers at all moments of the time. And it’s not Rs 100 – 200 fines that will slapped on the mobile operators. First time round, if a consumer complains even after registering his number on the ‘do not call me ‘list , the service provider will have to cough up to Rs 5,000. For a second time complaint, the penalty could go up to one – fifth the price of a Nano – that is, Rs 20,000. (I have no idea why I am so obsessed with Nano)J  

This is, of course great news for harangued mobile users – some of whom who will immediately sign up on the very un – science fiction – sounding NDNCR, that is the National Do Not call registry, and will wait patiently for 45 days after which they will pounce on the telemarketer who dares to call him.  

This makes us come back to poor, scared, lonely telemarketer who will now – hopefully – find it difficult to eke a living out of making cold calls. With politicians focused these days on the plight of farmers, the aam aadmi (or aurat) who wants to know whether you need a car loan, a credit card, a second credit card will not only have no one to talk to but will probably face penury and move on to some reckless enterprise. Like being on the other end to register you to the ‘Do not call me’ list?

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Size does matter

The Delhi police have admitted that big car parking in no – parking zones have a far better chance of getting away from the clutches of tow – way cranes than small cars. They want us to know and they are ‘with us for us always’ – that this disparity stems from the fact they don’t have enough bigger cranes necessary to tow away – you guessed it – bigger car. And the reason why the city police don’t have is because “smaller cranes are easier to man oeuvre in congested roads“. Which make complete sense, only if you’re Delhi police personnel, that is

On the face of it, the cranes are to blame. But is it really about hydraulics and pulleys and weight age or something more finely ingrained in the brains of all dilliwalas – policemen included? Big cars belong to big people who need not to be messed around with. And even if they aren’t the cat’s whiskers, a big car is a big car worthy of its owner being simply because he’s ‘made it‘. The big car- small car social disparity is, of course mirrored across all other lines.  

 So in this great socialistic country of ours, to be rich is not only fun, but it’s also protective. Why else do you think poor people want to be rich? Not only to buy goodies, but also to get away with the shortening – lengthening arm of law. Beware future Nano owners. J

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Chak de India Is that so who is the villian

J While we all were singing along shahrukh khan chak de India for encouragement of Indian hockey team, our very good old hockey team made us so proud that I can’t even write in words…hats off L 

It’s an understatement to call this the ‘darkest chapter’ in Indian hockey. After all, it wasn’t just a crunch match India lost to Great Britain in Santiago. Even the brits must have been surprised, the way the eight time Olympic gold medalists never recovered from shock of two early goals – to exit the game for first time in eighty years. 

 Rather, it should be seen in the light of consistent decline – barring a few rejuvenated streaks – which Indian hockey has witnessed in last several years. The coach of the team, joaquim carvalho, and his support staff have stepped down, and so the vice – president of the Indian hockey federation.    

 But as is perhaps to be expected, no such move is forthcoming from president of Indian hockey federation, K P S gill, under whose watch Indian hockey has had to face some of its most ignominious moments, including a last but one place finish in the last world cup, and an absence from the podium at Doha Asian games. 

Mr. Gill may have been a super cop in his heyday, but he has been nothing but a failure as the man at the helm of Indian hockey. Worse he has run the IHF as a fiefdom, where lack of transparency and accountability has been visible to one and all – what else would the technical advisor of Indian hockey, famed former Australian player Ric charlesworth, not allowed to travel with team to Chile? Winning in sport is not an outcome that can be guaranteed. But this is not the same as running a sport badly, which is what the divided IHF has been doing.

The argument that it is an autonomous body – read one where arbitrariness, favoritism and financial mismanagement can flourish – will not wash any longer. If hockey is our national sport and the team’s abysmal performance can amount to national shame, there is every reason for government to step in and make sure that players and their interests prevail over all else.         

 But honestly, instead of playing the blame game, administrators and players should consider it as a reality check. A good place to begin damage control would be governing bodies, with former international players replacing bureaucrats and politicians. 

The Indian hockey federation must learn from its cricket counterpart to sell hockey better by attracting sponsors. Making our team the undisputed champions in the sport - as they were in 1920 – 60 era – may be too much to expect, but a cleansed IHF where norms prevail over individuals, selection is done in a fair manner and players get good remuneration and allowances will at least place us among the top teams in the world. But then may be too much to expect from a government which continues to have as its sports minister who continues to have has publicly expressed his distaste for his job.

 Don’t expect an Olympic Gold medal overnight, but a focused effort should see India re- emerge as a vibrant hockey – playing nation.   

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Does everybody really hate malls????

Call me whatever you want but it makes me wonder what it is about everybody slogging malls these days as they  were the latest form of pestilence to strike out our wonderful town of Delhi n NCR. 

Anyways last week authorities plan of closing malls in gurgaon for one day of week so that congestion and power shortages could be tackled. Now, malls are being pitched as the reason why traffic comes to a stand still and why gurgaon residents have to depend on their buildings’ generator sets for power. 

For me all this is tosh. Not only do I like entering these climate controlled special escalator zones of numerous shop front all under one roof. Anyone can enter a mall and spend time without buying anything, it’s a cool hangout point and architectural splendor (it use to fascinate at a point of time). 

From a climate controlled environment especially in summers… to branded exclusive outlets.   

Somewhere down the line we like malls … say whatever folks but whenever a new mall is constructed we all visit (ok fine coz of kids or friends) just out of curiosity maybe yours or the person you are accompanying …. Is it any how different then rest JJJ

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Infatuation mistaken for Love

Love a beautiful expression, we all knows.

Love actually is there in all relationship that we live all through our lives. But what if love … does not actually love … it’s an infatuation mistaken for love… leading to insanity.

My friend is going through such a phase. Trust me it’s scary and ugly. It had suddenly turned things upside down.

Actually we all went through this stage called infatuation at some point of time in our life. Not exactly ugly but real madness kind of feeling was there. But can anyone easily differentiate between love and infatuation… hmmm… can be and cannot be…

According to me…

Infatuation is temporary insanity that makes a person deaf, blind, and dumb.

Infatuation is a sweet and sour form of madness. Infatuation feels like love, seems like love, and is very commonly mistaken for love — but infatuation isn’t love.

We know it can’t be love, because it always fades away and doesn’t come back — with the same person. Whereas love will stay after infatuation disappears.

Infatuation makes you ‘dumb’ because you lose touch with things which use to be great importance to you.

Life becomes temporarily all about your partner and those other things seem to fade in importance.

Infatuation makes you ‘deaf’. You simply don’t hear anybody else or say you don’t want to hear. You hate being told by others what’s right and what’s wrong.

But Infatuation always goes away. While it seems painful at the time, it’s a good thing that the madness fades away and reality returns.

No one could go through life with the intensity of focus infatuation brings. During infatuation, you could talk all night. You can survive with almost no sleep. You can ignore your responsibilities. You may pay no attention to your health.

Not everybody gets infatuated with their partner. You still can have a wonderful life-long, bonded relationship with your partner without ever having been infatuated. But, if you don’t know or realize what infatuation is, you can make some very big mistakes. 

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Lalus budget A curious train of thoughts

Budgets highlights: 

>> Free second class monthlies for girl’s students up to graduation. 

>> Across board cuts in passenger fares 

>> Overhaul of passenger amenities in stations n trains 

As we were trying to get the cheapest tickets on the cheapest budget airlines to go the farthest place from our work stations, there was Union Railway Minister Lalu Prasad Yadav unveiling his fifth Railway budget in parliament. Now that we know Indian Railways have made a whopping RS 25,000 crore profits this year, Mr. Yadav will surely present his strategies before graduates at the Harvard Business School. We also got to know all trains and stations will very soon have ‘green toilets’ that will urge us to not only buy platform tickets but train tickets as well. But Mr. Yadav’s enchant for being drop dead serious not only impressed us, but actually made us forego the cheapest ticket on the cheapest airline. 

For among the many other things the minister said was that in two years, there will no longer be train tickets queues. That may bring grief to hundreds of thousands of Indians whose livelihoods as touts will be grievously threatened. But Indian Railways back office will indeed warm the cockles of the hearts of the rest of us. Mr. Yadav also made us sit up when he mentioned that he will make ‘world class stations’ of New Delhi railway station, the Chhatrapati Shivaji Station in Mumbai and Patna.

Hmmm…Which is making me curious to visit railway station just to see the ‘world class’ settings and won’t have to deal with arriving an hour ahead of flying and grapple with delays, cancellation and bad food. Hurrah!!! 

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I hate falling sick n I fall sick all the time

So yeah been kind tired and busy lately with the sickness and all.

Got the word from the doc about this… I am sick… and it’s bigger trouble this time … apparently my habit of eating ice-creams n gulping loads of coke beyond acceptable limits … hehe…which could be because of …

1 Some Crap I didn’t understand
2 Some more crap I didn’t understand..

See… Only 2 out of 4 words rang the bell in my mind. So that’s all I remember about the meeting with doc. My grandma and my bhua have another explanation for my situation… they thinks it’s the result of “Buri Nazar”…  And I have had about 2-3sessions of nazar utarna … its fun… and now I am wearing a black thread because it’s supposed to protect me from something… Hehe!!

Anyway … What I would remember about this past few days is…lets say 10 days
Take this med…Go to doc… even relatives … cousin all got their hand full of advises…on medicines which to take… …

Anyway … I am fine now… a little tired though… Should be fine in another 10 days… That’s why my doctor love me so much I am very loyal customer…oops patient of him…

Saw 2 movies yesterday…My super ex- girlfriend…n Sunday…thank god both were good…

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