As you might remember, it went something like
this:
He waited for a moment when it was clear to him
that it would be OK to kiss her. She wanted it.
Then he said…
Him: "Can I kiss you?" Her: "Yes" Him: "OK, I’ll
make sure to do that."
At this point, she said "Right"… and leaned in
to kiss HIM!
What happened here?
What happened was a little bit of GENIUS.
That’s what happened.
He was TEASING HER. He was doing something
that, at first glance was kind of Wuss/Nice Guy
thing to do. But remember, he had so much momentum
built up, that this little "slip" was perceived by
her as OK. In fact, he had so much momentum and
ATTRACTION built up that she WANTED IT.
He says, "Can I kiss you?", she says, "Yes",
then he TEASES her by saying, "OK, I’ll make sure
to do that."
Yeah!
In that moment, she realizes that his Wuss
behavior was actually a JOKE, and that he was
actually MESSING with her and teasing her.
And at that point she leaned over and kissed
HIM.
Now, let me share something that I made up that
I have used with women on many occasions…
Let’s say I’m out and I meet a girl walking
down the street, and I get her email and phone
number.
We send a couple of emails back and forth, then
we get on the phone.
Because I’m always teasing and busting balls, I
KNOW that she’s enjoying it and interested in
me… so in that first phone conversation I’ll
say:
Me: "You know, I was telling my mom about you
today" Her: "Really?" Me:
"NO, you dork! Why would I tell my MOM about you?
Get over yourself!"
Are you with me?
Remember, I’m being charming, Cocky, Funny, and
unpredictable from the start… and I KNOW that
she’s enjoying it. The tension is building, even
as we have our first phone conversation.
So I then say something that just plain doesn’t
fit ("I was telling my mom about you today?"). She
says, "Really?" in a half flattered/half surprised
way, wondering what’s going on.
I then pause to build up the suspense.
As the pause is happening, and she’s starting
to think to herself, "Uh oh, he really likes me",
I drop the "No, you dork! Why would I tell my MOM
about you? Get over yourself!" line.
It’s funny, confusing, and a HUGE tease.
It usually gets a huge laugh… and it
communicates that I not only "get" what’s going
on, but I’m so confident that I’ll tease her about
it.
Now, this is what you might call an "advanced"
move.
If you don’t know how to tell if a woman is
attracted to you, how to spark attraction, how to
amplify the attraction, and how to move from one
step to the next, you’re just going to sound like
a dumb ass when you say something like this…
because you’ll say it at the wrong time, or you’ll
say it to a woman who isn’t very interested in
you… which will make things WORSE instead of
better.
I hope you hear what I’m saying.
One of the GREATEST things you can learn is how
to use SUBTLE humor with women to IMPLY what
you’re thinking without actually SAYING it
directly.
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